So tell me, why is it that all of a sudden it has become highly favorable to play the part of a complete ditz-brain? Okay, maybe it’s not all that sudden – but the point is, who decided that was the proper way to act and why on earth have we bought into it? I just don’t get it. This has been a real issue with me for many years and I still find that I am utterly amazed when a new “up & coming” all of a sudden turns bleach-blonde dumb. No offense, I’m certainly no stranger to highlights – and we become closer friends the older I get! But you know what I mean; at some point in time the lack of brain cells became associated with the brightness of our hair color and the size of our chest. Let me tell you what has once again stirred up these emotions. A certain awards show was on television the other night and this very attractive, young, talented singer who has found her way into the music business is on stage acting as if she got all dolled up for a big evening only to realize she left every trace of intelligence at home. The sad thing is this particular woman is intelligent – I have no doubts. She has written or co-written many of her songs, she had the world stacked against her from her circumstances and yet she persevered and has become successful. She holds an associates degree and from what I’ve been able to tell in various interviews she thinks of herself as intelligent and a smart business woman. So why would you present yourself any other way? It has taken years and years for women to break stigmas, earn rights, and become equals. They have poured out blood, sweat, and tears so that women coming after them even have the opportunity to be successful in all walks of life. And it just infuriates me to see a few personalities disregard the sacrifices that have been made. Beyond that, God wants more for us. He not only wants more, he expects more. He has not designed us to manipulate what we want others to think of us. In doing that, we’re not being honest. We can all be a little ditzy at times, say things we shouldn’t, speak before we’ve really thought it out and make ourselves look silly. But when it becomes an image we wear like part of our wardrobe, we’re not being truthful with ourselves nor are we telling others who we really are. Why would God create something so beautiful, so perfect in His image, and then expect us to be something we’re not. He wouldn’t – that contradicts everything He is. He created you – just as you are. Not to be someone you’re not. He calculated a very deliberate purpose when He handcrafted you. No one else can fulfill that purpose and without you just as you were created to be, we all lose out. I guess I am so passionate about this because it becomes increasingly difficult to raise my own daughters to be the women God created them to be when we live in a world where sex and success are synonymous. We try to instill character, integrity, modesty, patience, & humility and yet every corner we turn is another magazine cover, television station, or song lyric that is sparing no expense to captivate my girls into thinking their success is dependent upon pleasing the world. Sometimes it feels like I’m treading water while sharks circle just under the surface. At the expense of sounding too dramatic – it gives me a clear picture of Satan and his schemes. He hovers close by watching us struggle to keep our heads above water until he finds we’ve grown weak. He may get a few nibbles in and I may come out with some battle scars, may even lose a limb, but he won’t win the war – especially not when it comes to my children.
And I feel equally as passionate about you. If you are one of these young (or young at heart) women that have succumbed to the temptation to play Queen Dumb-chick because others think it’s cute – stop it. Truthfully, they only think it’s cute to your face. If you catch yourself dressing in a way that does not honor God – stop it. Put some clothes on, buy something that fits and cut the tag out if you don’t like the size. Tuck your parts and pieces back in where they belong and save those for the man God has designed for you as your husband. And as a footnote, it’s really not appealing to see your underwear either. It is UNDERwear! Don’t hang your head in shame about what you’ve done or the image you’ve portrayed; it is so easy to buy into the messages that are being sent our way. Start making different choices, stand up for what you know is right, and be amazed as you flourish walking in His light. He’ll bless it – I promise you.
Start demanding respect, you deserve it. There is a lot of truth to the saying you teach people how to treat you. If you want to be with someone who is going to honor and protect you, then that is what you have to project. Otherwise you will find yourself alone on a dead-end street with a broken heart. Be honest, stay true to who God created you to be. You’re worth it and to settle for anything less just means you won’t shine as brightly as you could. And, hello, all girls like to sparkle! Love you girls.
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